It’s been awhile since I last did one of these and I need to vent some frustration, it’s good for you, you shouldn’t bottle things up. So welcome to another edition of things that vex me, the place where I rant and rave about all the things that vex me in life. And believe me, there are a lot.
This time its the turn of those bastards who are always on their bloody phones.
Now instantly there will be two groups of people here. Those who are also annoyed by this and those who have no idea what I am talking about. To that second group I say screw you, you are the problem! Gits.
Why does this annoy me? Well its just plain rude. Pure and simple. You’re sat with a person happily chatting away and they are just staring at their phone typing away on Facebook, Twitter, texting or whatever the hell it is they do, not really paying any attention to you or what you are saying.
They may nod along and make the occasional sound, but don’t let that fool you, they aren’t listening. What I like to do is just stop talking, mid-sentence, and then wait and see how long it takes them to realise I have stopped talking. I find after a minute or two they tend to notice I’ve stopped talking, they’ll look up from their phones and say something like “oh I was listening”. No, no you weren’t. I know it and you know it. Why bother lying? You can try the “oh what did I just say” line but we all know the answer already, they have no clue. It just brings shame to both of you.
The worst part is it doesn’t matter where you are with these people they’ll do it. When watching TV or a film, when out to dinner, when hanging out, at parties, or even at a concert. I was on the train with a friend one time, and I’m talking a long train ride of about 2 and a half hours, and the whole time she spent it staring at her phone barely saying a word. Just click click click on her phone.
The irony was that if I texted her or sent her a message on Skype, you know when I was not actually in her company, I couldn’t shut her up. Message after message after message.
She’s not the only one. I’ve met quite a few people like that now. I’m not sure if they are scared to talk to another person face to face or if they are just addicted to their bloody stupid phones. I just want to grab them and throw them out a window or smash them on the floor!
OK I’m calm again. At least when there is a large group of people and someone can’t put their phone down there are other people to talk to. You can just leave the phone addict in the corner typing away to their hearts content.
One time me and some friends were hanging out in the pub having a couple of drinks, as you do, and one of the guys in the group was one of these phone addicts. We decided to teach him a lesson and quietly left, going to the next pub on our list, without telling him while his staring at his phone. About ten minutes after we had left he finally realised we were gone and phoned us to see where we were. Funnily enough after that he used his phone less when out with us, although he did still use it quite a bit, but less than what it was before.
What’s really sad is that people are now inventing games and forfeits as reasons to put their phones down when hanging out with friends.
One of them is that when you are in a pub or restaurant, everyone has to put their phone in the middle of the table, then the first one to check their phone loses and has to pay the bill or buy the next round etc.
Honestly I just think it’s sad. When I go out with people its to see them, to talk to them, to hang out with them, not to spend all bloody time on my phone paying little to no attention to them. If I don’t want to go out because I’m tired or want to stay home and watch TV or read a book I just tell my friends that. They respect that.
If you’d rather be at home texting someone else than meeting up with me and talking to me thats fine. I don’t mind that. I understand. I’ll find someone else to hang out with or I’ll find something else to do, there are plenty of things to do in the world. But don’t sit there ignoring me and texting someone else. That is just so unbelievably rude.
Mobile phones are incredibly useful and I’m not against them. Sometimes when I’ve been out with friends we have phoned or texted other friends to see what they were doing and if they wanted to join us in the pub. Or if someone gets a phonecall I don’t mind them answering it, it could be important, that’s kind of the point of a mobile phone afterall. Just don’t spend the whole time staring at it and not saying a word.
It’s getting worse though. You now seem them walking down the street and around shops, getting in peoples way and bumping into them because they aren’t paying attention to their surroundings.
Give it a few years and it’ll probably be normal. Those of us who aren’t addicted to our phones and glued to them 24/7 will be considered the rude ones, we’ll be cut out and ostracised, we’ll be the new social outcasts. It’s coming. Hell it’s already happening, if you don’t have Facebook and crap now you are considered weird and treated with suspicion.
That is it for this edition of ‘Things that vex me…’ let me know in the comments below if this annoys you as well or if you have any stories about it and how you dealt with it.
Until next time.